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Four Aspects of Intimacy
Graham Cooke
An intimate relationship with God intimidates the enemy. Our conversation with God smells sweet to Him–”When He had taken the book, the four living creatures and the twenty-four elders fell down before the Lamb, each one holding a harp and golden bowls full of incense, which are the prayers of the saints,” as Revelation 5:8 says. Intimacy with God involves four things-adoration, affection, appreciation, and abiding.
Adoration is an emotional response to the love of God. We cannot receive the love of God without having feelings about it. The love of God is not simply an intellectual process; He gave us feelings so that He could touch them. An emotional response to the love of God usually involves tears–but these are tears of trust. As we come to understand and love the nature of God, we find that we don’t need everything to be right in our lives. “These things are true, but You are more real to me,” we say. “I don’t need everything in my life to be perfect, for I know that You are honorable and trustworthy.” I am not suggesting that we leave our pain behind us when we worship. Just the opposite in fact: God wants us to bring that pain to Him. He wants to love us through it, to look us in the eye and touch us. “I’ll meet you in it,” He whispers. “Come and give it to Me–and I’ll give Myself to you.”
Adoration involves joy, happiness, and laughter. Many Christians need to challenge themselves to smile more. Adoration, after all, is passion with intentionality. It is an emotional response to His love, His touch, His nearness. We can learn to anticipate the Holy Spirit’s deep love for us and return it to Him. Worship is an affair of the heart, while adoration involves discipline and determination within our feelings to stay connected to Him.
Affection, the second part of intimacy, involves loving God with our mind. We need to love the Lord with all of our mind, which means we need to let Him check our thoughts-as we are having them. We lift Him up by accepting the thoughts that are blessing God, and discarding the ones that don’t. This takes focused attention to start. After several weeks and months, however, we have fewer and fewer non-God thoughts. Our mind is renewed! “Set your mind on the things above, not on the things that are on the earth,” Paul counseled in Colossians 3:2.
A key way to show affection toward God is to meditate on the goodness of His nature. Meditation isn’t scary; it is merely thinking deeply about something. I love to meditate, and I spend two or three months a year doing it. Think deeply about who God is and who He wants to be for you. Don’t worry about what He is doing with other people or other places; think about your relationship with Him. Where is He taking you? Meditation is a key to intimacy. By loving God with our mind, we develop confidence in Him. We create an unbroken fellowship by being God-conscious.
Intimacy also involves deep appreciation. In all things, we must give thanks. It is part of our DNA as human beings that we be grateful. If I eat a great meal in a restaurant, I want to thank the server and the chef. It’s just natural! If someone gives us a beautiful sweater for Christmas, we want to say thank you. If someone scores a touchdown for our team, what are we doing when we stand up and cheer? We are showing our appreciation. If someone wins a gold medal, or overcomes a daunting deficit to win, we jump up and down. We are thankful to be a part of that historic moment.
“In everything give thanks; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus,” Paul said in 1 Thessalonians 5:18. Intimacy has a voice, and we need to be vocal in our praise and gratitude. Thanksgiving is not just for the Thanksgiving weekend; it should be an everyday occurrence. Real intimacy cannot be hidden. It transforms us. To get there, however, we need to press into communion and praise. We have to live with a heart captured by God. Appreciation is often a tool God uses to draw us closer to Him. When we enter His presence, He usually tells us something He loves about us. He is just very good at being grateful–and we need to follow the Holy Spirit’s lead in that.
Finally, intimacy involves abiding. “Abide in Me, and I in you,” Jesus said in John 15:4. “As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, so neither can you unless you abide in Me.” When we keep our consciousness focused on God, our faith increases exponentially. “But you, beloved, building yourselves up on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, waiting anxiously for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ to eternal life,” as the writer said in Jude 20-21. Abiding means we value and honor our relationship with God above all others. The Holy Spirit responds to that intimacy by teaching us how to stay, rest, and dwell in Christ.



